Grief and loss

What is Grief and Loss?

Grief is a natural emotion after the loss of someone who is close to you, as in a family member, beloved pet or a close friend. There is also grief after a serious illness, divorce or any dramatic change that has impacted you in life.

Many people suffer grief from growing up in a dysfunctional family, grieving for their lost childhood they should/could have had.

For some, giving up something that is important and has meaning; or changing jobs, forced retirement can cause some grief.

Some more examples include

  • The permanent health issues due to an illness, accident, or disability
  • miscarriage or infertility
  • Children with a disability, a terminal illness, a mental illness or a substance abuse problem
  • Moving away or separation from family or friends
  • ‘Empty nest’ when children leave home

Grief is a process that affects everyone differently. It can be exhausting and emotionally draining. Give yourself time. Accept your feelings and know that grieving is a process.

Talk to others. Spend time with friends and family. Don’t isolate yourself.

Take care of yourself. Exercise regularly, eat well, and get enough sleep to stay healthy and energized.

In an effort to better understand the grieving process, many mental health experts and researchers have dedicated years to studying loss and the emotions that come with it.

One expert is Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a Swiss-American psychiatrist. She created the Kübler-Ross model, the theory of the five stages of grief and loss.

*In her 1969 book, “On Death and Dying,” Kübler-Ross examined the five most common emotional reactions to loss:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Depression and
  • Acceptance


Everybody reacts to grief differently. If you are experiencing prolonged persistence of sadness and despair you may be suffering from depression. Especially if your feelings are getting in the way of everyday life.

If you’re experiencing intense grief and feel unsure about how to cope with it, reach out for help – I can provide comfort and support.

‘Any reason that’s valid to you is a good reason for reaching out for help.’